It is very rare to find couple that doesn’t run into a few bumps in the road. Some problems could be recognised ahead of time; chronic infidelity, secretive about where they go when you’re not around or incompatible sex drives.
Listed below are written letters to aunty Bunmi from different people complaining about their relationship crisis
Man #1: Can I get over her infidelity
He couldn’t even go after the petty contracts that used to sustain him and he made it clear he didn’t want a real relationship. I did all I could to help him but he’d say I was stupid and useless, and he was a nasty bully. When he was sober though, he could be so nice. But most of the time, we ended up having violent rows. He even threatened to kill me once. We eventually broke up recently and I’ve just found out that he stole a lot of money from me. I’m totally devastated. I don’t even know if I could live without him.
Why are women so fickle? Why am I so unlucky with them? After several disappointments, I finally got married to a woman I thought loved me. That was five years ago. We have two boys but now a man who was my rival when I was dating her has boasted that he fathered our first son. I was furious and insisted on a blood test.
He lets them stay up late at night watching unsuitable TV programmes and films. They always come back with an attitude, refusing to tidy their rooms and answering me back.
I’m fed up with always being made out to be the strict parent. I grew up in a loving household where everyone did their bit and I want the same for the kids. As things are now, I’m frightened they’ll end up wanting to go and live with their dad.
According to Marie Land, “You need to feel comfortable laying bare your problems and frustrations with your partner. It’s problematic if one of you prefers to keep your emotions bottled up.”