— Things You Ought To Know NOT To Do in a Wedding
— Worst Wedding Mistakes Ever: Proposing To Your Other Half at Someone Else’s Wedding
— Bride’s fury at husband’s best man who upstages her with ultimate blunder at £46k wedding
The best man was clearly intoxicated by the romance of the day, but now the newlyweds won’t speak to him
here are some things which, by now, everyone should know NOT to do at a wedding.
Yet the bar gets raised ever-higher, as foolish guests all over the world commit blistering errors of judgement .
You know, like basically turning up in a wedding dress or posting pictures all over social media when the bride and groom have asked you to refrain.
However, residing at the very zenith of the worst wedding mistakes you could make would have to be proposing to your other half at someone else’s wedding.
Yes, we’re all caught up in the romance of the day but, seriously, wind your neck in.
Sadly, this is what one bride recently had to go through.
And it’s so much worse than we initially imagined, because it came from the best man .
Seeking advice from Dear Prudence , the vexed spouse began her letter with:
“My husband and I started dating, got pregnant, had a child, moved in together, bought a house, and got a dog in that order.”
So far so good. Except friends and family began to apply pressure in that way they do.
Eventually and after working hard, the couple “reached a point where we could afford a huge blowout wedding to celebrate our lives with everyone we know and love.
“My husband’s best friend, ‘John,’ was the best man/officiant.”
Everything was going swimmingly.
The new bride continues, “The setting was beautiful, everyone seemed happy, our families were overjoyed.
“My mom may have used the phrase hallelujah a few dozen times.
“The entire atmosphere felt moving.
“So moving, in fact, that John stopped mid-ceremony to propose to his longtime girlfriend, ‘Jane,’ and reveal her pregnancy.”
No, that’s not after the ceremony or even at the reception (neither of those are ideal outcomes, but at least they don’t threaten to de-rail the entire day) but DURING their vows.
The bride goes on:
“I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests, and people seated nearby congratulating her.
“Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony, and you can’t hear anything over the chatter.”
Things got worse.
“When John gave his toast, he apologised for being caught up in the moment, and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us.
“During the reception John and Jane became the primary focus of our guests.
“John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor.”
Explaining she has never been “an attention hog” and that she would not have minded if the proposal had taken place after the ceremony, she admits “weeks later I am still seething.
“I am so shocked and angry that I keep asking myself if this is real life.”
Her husband has not spoken to his best man since the wedding but while mutual friends agree what ‘John’ did was wrong, they believe the couple should move on from it.
“My husband has joked that he’ll resume his friendship when John and Jane give him a $40,000 check for ‘their half of the wedding.’
“Do you think John’s behaviour warrants the end of a long-term friendship, or are we angry over nothing?”
Prudence’s response was to advise a good old-fashioned fight.
“In between ‘getting over it’ and ‘never speaking to John again’ is the happy medium of ‘having a difficult conversation with a longtime friend who did something selfish and self-absorbed on your wedding day.’
“He’s your husband’s best friend, so your husband should tell John just how upset his behavior during your wedding made him.
“Whatever the outcome, there is definitely at least one step in between ‘seething silently’ and ‘cutting John loose forever,’ especially since the two of them have been best friends for a long time.”